Being diplomatic is nice, and it's good to be a team player. But today, you should feel free to take control. Act solely with your best interests in mind. At work, a lot of meaningless chit chat is causing everything to spin in circles: so step up and tell everyone what you think the best move would be. Everyone else will be grateful that you stepped in. In your personal life, use this self-assuredness to bring up sensitive issues and get them out of the way.