If you need to get a message across to someone, you have no time to waste. So skip the subliminal stuff: hinting around isn't going to get you anywhere (it so seldom does). Plus, by beating around the bush about things, you could end up confusing the situation even more. Today, you've got to come right out and say what you have to say. Be clear, honest and of course tactful (like you usually are). Your forthrightness will earn you respect and honesty in return.