If you're genuine today, people will focus on your message. For best results, make sure your words and actions jibe. Your personal value in any given situation draws people to you: that's what enriches your effectiveness in all your relationships. So, strive to point out the good in others. Be thoughtful. Does your coworker love sweets? Bake them a pan of toll house cookies. Even something seemingly insignificant like a thank-you note shows your peeps how much you really care about them.